I’ve got freckles on my back
And pasty pale skin.
I’ve got stretch marks on my stomach
And light grey eyes.
I’ve got curly brown hair
And scars on my thighs.
I’ve learned to love my body, even the parts that make my heart sink when I look in the mirror. I remind myself of it’s strength and it’s power and it’s duty to protect the organs that keep me alive. My body’s purpose isn’t to squeeze into a pair of jeans from Topshop.
It is there to protect the heart that pumps blood around my body and the lungs that are the reason for every breath I take. My body protects my brain, which is full of ideas and memories and dreams. My body protects the bones that are the reason I can walk down the street and dance around the kitchen and hug my parents.
Your body’s strength is mesmerizing, so the next time you start to worry about how your legs aren’t long enough or how your tummy isn’t toned enough, remind yourself that your body is strong, your body is your great protector and your body is your home.
Happy New Year! I am so glad that 2017 is finally here. I’ve made a tonne of goals for 2017, but my main mission for this year is to focus on self care which I’ve failed to do over the last few weeks.
When you’re feeling low it is important to acknowledge your feelings. I am currently suffering from seasonal affective disorder which is a certain type of depression that is related to the changes in seasons. Some of the symptoms include tiredness, lack of energy, weight gain and oversleeping. Personally, I tend to suffer from the disorder after the excitement and huge build up to Christmas dies down. I tend to wallow in self pity like a grumpy little gremlin and find it extremely difficult to make myself feel better. I let the disorder take over and mope about all day. However, I am determined to take better care of myself thanks to a video by Lucy Moon and Rosianna Halse Rojas where they discuss self care and share their tips on how to make yourself feel better during these darker times.
The video reminded me of how great I felt during last summer when I was really invested in looking after myself. One of the main things I did was taught myself to enjoy my own company. I think it’s extremely important to be comfortable with who you are and to feel content by yourself. Some of my happiest days were days I spent alone, for example my solo day trip to Galway or the day I spent in a local cafe reading. So I’ve set myself a few self care goals for the month of January and will continue to do so because 2017 is the year I take care of myself. It’s the year I put myself on a pedestal.
1: Go to the cinema by yourself
2: Get a haircut
3: Spend more time outdoors
4: Drink more water
5: Go on a solo day trip
Have you got any self care tips that you swear by? Share them in the comment section or tweet me @katkatkatt
My life has been crazily busy lately. I’ve barely had a second to myself between working part time, travelling, being features editor of the college newspaper and tackling assignments. It’s been a stressful time and there have been moments where I’ve cried and where my stress levels were through the roof and when I’ve completely run out of energy.
I love being busy. I love having plans. I love working on exciting projects. I love how fun life has been lately. However sometimes we need to take a break from the hussle and bustle. We need to find a place of peace, tranquility and calmness, whether that’s at your home or at a local cafe or a library.
It is so important to have a place where you can unwind and relax. A place where you can breath out any stress and focus on you. I feel like us milenials are constantly rushing about, but rarely take time out to sit still and focus on life and absorb it.
That’s why I’ll be spending the next few days reenergising and taking it easy. I’ll be snuggled up in the fairy light cavern that is my bedroom, where I will read and drink peppermint tea and listen to music and breathe.
And when I’m ready and rejuvenated I will go back to my hectic lifestyle and I’ll be able to handle it with ease and most importantly I’ll be able to appreciate it and enjoy it.
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
– Ferris Bueller’s Day Off
I’ve been feeling very down lately. My spirits are low and I’m running out of positive vibes. However, unlike my past self I now have the strength in me to make myself feel better. We all have our down days and one of the most important things I’ve come to realise is that it’s completely normal to feel bad and to cry from time to time.
On these bad brain days I often find myself focusing on the negative parts of my life. I sit in my bedroom and mope around like a grumpy little oaf. I isolate myself and do as little as possible. I basically do everything you shouldn’t do when one is feeling glum. Thankfully I’ve realised there are so many things that make me smile like the Cheshire Cat on bad brain days. So, I thought I’d share my list with you and hope it helps you too.
- Disney: I love everything about Disney. It fills me with so much joy. I cannot get enough of it. If there’s something that’s going to make you smile from ear to ear it’s gotta be Disney related. Visit the magical Disney shop on Grafton Street and try not to spend all your money on the soft toys (I’ve currently got my eye on Lucifer, the sleepy Eeyore tsum tsum and the little Flounder soft toy. They’re just all too cute!) A trip to the Disney store or a Disney movie marathon will always make me feel better. Day dreaming about visiting Disneyland is another favourite of mine; I’ll visit one day, soon!
- Friends: I tend to shut people out during bad brain days, which is the silliest thing to do. It’s something I’m working on fixing and I think I’m doing a grand job at it so far. I’ve started speaking to my friend Laura on the phone which is the ultimate pick me up (even if our late night phone calls are ruining our sleeping patterns) Chatting about light topics like what TV shows we’re watching or what we did during the day has helped so much. Our light, relaxed & goofy conversations have kept my anxiety at bay and have made me laugh like an absolute loon at 2am.
- Volunteering: I adore being a volunteer, it’s one of my favourite things about who I am. I wish I had more time to do it these days, because my family over at the volunteer shop never fail to make me feel better, especially Sally and Tracey who are two women that I really look up to. They are some of the greatest people I have ever met. They make me smile and laugh until my sides ache. They also believe in me and support me so much. Working in the charity shop is a great way to get out and meet all kinds of characters, both good and bad. It’s also a nice way to give back to the local community. Pottering around the shop and fixing the book shelves and steaming clothes on a Saturday makes me feel so motivated and gives me a much needed confidence boost. Knowing the work I do is helping others is the best reward of all.
- My Journal: I’ve got at least fifteen journals under my bed full of thoughts, memories, fears, hopes and story ideas. I try to write in my journal at least once a day. There is something so therapeutic about spilling all your thoughts onto the pages of a journal. Pick up a journal in Primark or splash out on one from Paperchase. Writing is one of the best ways to get things off your mind. Embrace your inner Bridget Jones and start scribbling away in your diary.
- Travelling: I have a part time job now which means I now have money for the first time in forever. I visited Amsterdam at the beginning of the summer and since then the travel bug hasn’t left me alone. I’m constantly scrolling through booking.com dreaming about staying in the swankiest hotels in London. I’ve recently traveled to Cork and Louth by myself which I am so chuffed with. Last year I could barely get on a Dublin bus without having a panic attack so being able to travel solo is a huge achievement for me. I’m hoping to visit London within the next couple of months. I cannot wait to hop on a plane again.
Let’s hope the bad brain days stay away and that July is a positive month.
The inspiration for this weeks blog post came from the quote “I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.” I came across this quote months ago when I was scrolling through my Instagram feed. We’re all aware that Instagram is always full of motivational and sometimes cheesy quotes. I’ve been guilty of uploading the odd inspirational quote to Instagram, however none of them ever made such a big impact on me like this one about spending time alone did.
I never thought being alone was a good thing. I always felt this pressure to be surrounded by friends or family. This pressure came from school, a place full of cliques. you know the stereotypical cliques you see in teen movies? Our school had a popular girl, the stereotypical popular girl like Claire in The Breakfast Club or Regina George in Mean Girls. The stereotypes made me feel like I was less important than others because I wasn’t one of the ‘popular’ girls. I wasn’t unpopular or isolated, I had a wonderful group of witty and unique pals in secondary school, some of whom are still my best friends. However, there was always this pressure to get the most likes on a status, or to have over one hundred Facebook friends. I remember 16 year old Kat worrying over nonsense like why only six of her friends liked her new photos from her Gaeltacht trip. These ridiculous standards set by society stopped me from enjoying my own company.
I was relying on other people to make myself happy, which is so unhealthy. At the start of this year I changed my ways after I lost someone who was once the most important person in my life. Over the past few years I have lost people who I thought would always be part of my life. I felt lost and clueless without their company. I spent way too long walking on someone else’s path, I was living life through their eyes, but I eventually got back on my own path and started living life for me.
Relying purely on other people to make you happy isn’t healthy, because they’re not always going to be there. However, you’re always going to be with you. You’re stuck with you forever, so learning to accept yourself and being happy with your own company is beyond important. It’s one of the most important things you can do to improve your life.
It’s certainly one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I feel comfortable with who I am. I love who I am. I love my crazy love for John Hughes’ work and my bad dancing. I enjoy spending time alone because I am finally happy with who I am. Some of my favourite days of 2015 have been the ones where I was by myself. From evening walks on the beach in Devon to John Hughes movie marathons, sipping on tea in newly discovered cafe’s to quiet days at the library with my Brat Pack book. I love looking back on these days because the person that made me feel so happy and so good was me, Kat.
Spend some time alone. Find a new cafe. Go on a morning stroll in your local park. Visit the cinema or go to an art gallery. Enjoy being with you & enjoy your own company.
(and yes I did use a George Ezra song title as this blogs title, I couldn’t help it hehe)