I was lucky enough to interview Allsún Henderson in honour of Cystic Fibrosis Ireland’s 65 Roses Day. Hearing about how her life has changed since having a double-lung transplant showed me that being an organ donor is the most selfless and heroic thing you can do, but the one thing that really hit me was something she said about guilt.
She shared, “You can feel huge guilt if you are not using your gift of a second chance to its fullest.”
I feel like we can all relate to Allsún’s words. We put so much pressure on ourselves to be busy all the time. It’s like life has become a competition where we’re all trying to have the coolest (and most Instagrammable) life.
You must watch the latest Netflix series before all your friends. You just have to discover this new indie-pop band before they break into the charts. You need to visit this city before it becomes trendy.
I feel like we’re just rushing around, cramming as much into our days as possible, keeping up appearances and updating our social media as we go along.
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"Every person needs to take one day away. A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future. Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence. Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us." -Maya Angelou. #quotes #mayaangelou #inspiration #writer #poet #dayoff #break #timeout #park #peace #calm #tranquility
I know having a jam-packed social calendar may seem like a dream to many people, but I feel like there’s so much pressure put on us to be busy that we’ve forgotten how to step back and breathe.
I’m not saying to become a recluse and wave goodbye to cocktail nights with the girls, coffee dates, cinema trips and adventures in the sun because they are well needed.
What Allsún’s words taught me was not to be afraid of taking a break, of a quiet night in and saying no every so often.
We need to rest and reflect from time to time. There is nothing wrong with staying in on a Friday night every so often. You’re not going to enjoy a catch-up with your college friends if you’re running on empty.
Do not feel guilty for the Friday nights in, for the plans you canceled or for quiet the days because sometimes all you need to do is just step back and breathe.